Valentine's eve, if there'd be such a day, it would be that. Since the day before Christmas is called Christmas eve, and the day before new year is called new year's eve, then the day before valentine's should be called valentine's eve. It is not an exemption to this rule. As the panoramic view unfolds before me, the day when love is in the limelight, i am seeing myself falling more and more in love. As Leo Buscaglia says, we do not fall out of love, there is only falling in love. Love that man, and i purposely said love as it is still active even right this very moment, and i am pretty confident that it will still be as it is when my semi-black hair mutates into silver strands. We lack love nowadays, and anyone who disputes that is stuck in his/her own little world of unicorns and fairies!


The million dollar question is "how do we love?" Not just love superficially, but love in every way love means. You see, love, if taking out of its incarceration of being just a measly word, would encompass every human being there is in our world today. That 4 letter word can touch every person, dead or otherwise. And the wonderful thing about it is when it permeates into our very existence, it doesn't lose anything. The love you gave to someone will still be the same love you will be giving to another. It is an indefragable and an incontrovertible feeling. How do we love? Must we look at what is visible to our naked eye? Must we touch what is tangible to our integumentary system? You see, and i hope you do see, what is essential is invisible to the eye. Irony, right? The world, diverse as it may seem, is cleaved by love. What is common in every corpus in this world is our mutual feeling towards living. We love to live! We want others also to love to live. As Leo Buscaglia said, love is life! And it is. For what would be of life without love? Imagine, what would be of it? I see it as a dead leaf crumbling effortlessly by the breeze. It's just isn't life at all.


How do we love? There's no curriculum vitae to guide us on how to love! We just do. It is a primordial human feeling, at times a human failing. I say it is because we talk so much of it and yet we don't give much of it. I am no exemption! Then you think i am being a hypocrite of preaching something i do not even practice. But of course. Aren't we all are? But as long as i am aware of what i am lacking and what i am capable of giving, i can have the conviction of adding to it or giving it. For want of a good rebuttal of me being a hypocrite, i am trying to practice the things i usually believe in.


How do we love? I should say, we should love spontaneously! If you give it a critical thought, then how would that qualify as love? How do i love you? Should i give you flowers this valentine's day? Or should i treat you to a romantic, candle-lit dinner for two? Should you? You could. It's your prerogative to do so since you are the one who knows what and how you can show to your loved one your love for him/her. The best things in life, and since i have tantamounted life to love, i can safely say that the best things in love is what's going behind the scenes. Behind the curtains before the theatrical show even begins, behind the close doors liberated by the judging eyes of society, it is the nuances of love, of life. The spontaenous happenings, and in spontaneous i mean the things that happens naturally, things that are unplanned. Like the wind, that just decides to blow wherever it wants, and you see, that is what's beautiful about the wind. It touches everyone without having to map out its path. We should be, as a way of showing our love, like the wind.


How do we love? You ask a hundred people that question and you would get a hundred unique, though connected answers. Each of us has our own way of showing our love. We could be tit for tat critical to the one's we love, blatantly criticize their mistakes, and if for us we are showing love, then we are. No one dictates to us, well anyone can, but we should not let it get into us, how we should love the people we love. They do not even know better than us. They're busy with their lives thinking of how they could show their love. We love people in our own little, unique ways. There are as much ways of showing our love than there are people around the world. Let no one tell you that you should do this, do that, don't do this, and don't do that. You are you and they are them. Trust yourself, that is what's lacking nowadays.


How do we love? Since it is valentine's day, people are busy preparing things to make their partners feel loved. And i laud them. I support them in every undertakings they do. I admire them, to that precise extent! But if i may castigate, why just now? Well at least we have that one day where we can romantically and ostentaciously display our love without having to feel ashamed of it. But aren't we doing it out of necessity? Not to sound to blatant and all. Just because it is that time of the year, just because everybody is doing it and i should be also or i would be ostracized, just because i am pressured to do so. We should show our love to our better half just because..And it ends there. Free from reasons, free from pressures. Being reminded of valentine's day makes me think of how much little time we allot to proudly showing to our loved ones how much, or how we love them. 365 days in a year, and just 1 day. 1 day?! It's just evident and vindicative of how much we as living beings of the modern times, think so less of love. Are we really doomed of being lonely? Each and everyone of us living a
life of solitude.


Speaking of the modern times, one of the most abused sentence (and this is not backed up by empirical statistics; i personally do not put my life on the line on statistics) is "I love you." It's a sentence, isn't it? It has a subject, a verb and an object for the verb. During my highschool days, it is something you say when you mean it. And even if you mean it, you still have to attend to a lot of contradicting feelings when you want to say it. But today, it's no longer even necessary to explain.But i think that that is a good thing. The youth taught that early to what love is. How it hurts, how its suppose to feel, how its suppose to be shown, and so on. But more often than not, it is taught the wrong way! Then again. There is no wrong way for love. What i mean is, love as a prerequisite for life, has been a taught as a prerequisite for sex. Mind you, sex is essential but not a necessity. We're living in a scary world nowadays. Give it another 5years and i for one will no longer be able to recognize what love is about as taught.


How do we love then? We just do. No what if's, no why's, no what's, and no wh-question's. We simply do. Love is simple! No need to complicate what is simple in the first place, it will do no one good. The moment you feel your heart jumping out with joy, and you start to doubt if you are in love. Don't! You are in love. Do not be afraid of the pain it might, and it will bring! As Nietzsche said, "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!". Pain is penultimately a branch of love.One will never know what love means, what love is, and why love is, when we don't get hurt. Do not be afraid, for if you arethen you are destined to be afraid of love. Love, love, love! Why is something so wonderful so despised?


How do we love? Just do. ^^,